5 Things Michelle Obama Teaches Black Women About Marriage

Happy birthday to our First Lady Michelle Obama! Our president’s other half is graciously turning 50 today, and is looking as radiant as ever. After 22 years of marriage, she has quite a bit of wisdom to impart on us when it comes to keeping a healthy marriage.

Love Doesn’t Hurt

“Good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends that you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourselves with.”

Barack and Michelle Friends

Mrs. Obama wants us to remember how it feels to be in love, and that means love doesn’t hurt. Love is not abuse. Love is not control. Love is a beautiful feeling. While it may not always be easy and it may not always feel great, you should never think of your spouse and think “pain”.

Don’t Forget About Yourself

“Women should have the freedom to do whatever they need to do to feel good about themselves.”

We as black women tend to often forget about ourselves when we’re married. We’re focused on our husbands, we’re focused on our kids, we’re focused on our extended families, and we tend to come last. We forget about our hobbies, our plans, and the things we need to remain ourselves. The First Lady wants us to remember that we have the power to do what it takes to take back control of our own lives and feel good about ourselves.

A relationship built on a friendship will most certainly prosper! You can’t help but recognize the energy and the chemistry between the President and his wife. We love seeing them laugh and play with each other. The same holds true with your marriage. It shouldn’t always be about the bills and business. Let loose and have fun with the person you vowed to spend the rest of your life with. Enjoy hobbies together, spend quality time, and always remember the starting point of your relationship, which should be a friendship.

Believe In Your Husband

“And I come here as a wife who loves my husband and believes he will be an extraordinary president.”

Could you imagine having your husband’s back as leader of the free world? It’s got to be tough, and I’m sure it was nerve wracking when Barack first mentioned his intentions to Michelle. But through it all, she has believed in him and had his back! When your husband has dreams and goals, he needs you as his biggest cheerleader. Pump him up, support him in any and every way possible, and he can be successful.

Look Forward to Your Future Together

“And I did not think it was possible, but let me tell you today, I love my husband even more than I did four years ago. Even more than I did 23 years ago when we first met.”

Can you believe that these two are even more in love than they were when they first got married? This is something many couples who have been married for a long time feel. When you go through ups and downs with your spouse, it tends to bring you closer together. The phrase “that which does not kill you makes you stronger” rings true for marriages as well. What didn’t tear you apart will bring you closer together. Look forward to being even more in love with the person you married as time goes by.

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  1. Keith Jackson says

    Good thing, but not the 5 I would have chosen. Women are already self centered enough I don’t think Michelle Obama is delivering that message.