Should Miss Jamaica have won Miss Universe?

Even if you didn’t watch the Miss Universe contest last night, you have heard about the controversy. There is always controversy and high drama surrounding these competitions, but really this was a whole new level.

Miss Jamaica, Kaci Fennell, was clearly the crowd and internet favorite to win the compition. However, when she exited the top five there were audible boos from the audience. People were in disbelief and shock that this beauty didn’t pull it out.

AFP 537135352 S TEN ENT USA FLThe eventual winner of the copeition was Miss Columbia Paulina Vega. People congratulated her, but it is clear who everyone thought should have won the competition by the chatter in the audience and on Twitter.

According to their comments, Fennell was flawless, smart, elegant, georgeous, dope and had the goods to win the competition.

What did you think? Should Miss Jamaica have won the Miss Universe competition?

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Divorce Settlement: Would You Turn Down Nearly $1 Billion Check If Your Spouse Was Worth Over $20 Billion?

The thought of a billion dollars makes my knees shake. That is more money than most of us will ever seen in our entire lifetime, but this Sue Ann Arnall just received a check just shy of this amount from her ex-husband.

Harold Hamm is the oil tycoon divorcing his wife of 26 long and wonderful years due to a variety of reasons, money  not being one of them. He is estimated to be worth over $20 billion dollars as he has done very well for himself in the oil industry.

The couple recently made headlines because of their divorce that has been pretty messy. Hamm issued a check for his wife to settle the matter of money by writing a $975,790,317 dollar check to her in her name. His intention was for her to cash the check and take that as the divorce settlement.

billion dollar check

Sue Ann has been all over the media and hell bent on not accepting such a low payout for their years of marriage knowing her ex-husband was worth more than $20 billion dollars. She felt her work as an executive in the business contributed to the success of the business. And as such, she felt she was due a much larger payout.

However, after a week or so of contemplation, Sue Ann has cashed the check for nearly a billion dollars. There hasn’t been any indication that the matter is settled, but we do know the check has been cashed and she is sitting on a fat pile of money.

Our question to you is would you settle for a $1 billion dollars if you know your spouse was worth about $20 billion and many years of your blood, sweat and tears went into building the company?

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Husband Shot In Chest By Wife After Trying To Surprise Her With Breakfast In Bed

Everyone dreams of their husband or wife surprising them with breakfast in bed. It is something we all think about a good spouse doing. However, when this happened Friday at a military couple’s home, things didn’t turn out so well.

Tiffany Segule, 27 years old, shot her husband in the chest as he tried to bring her breakfast in bed. This was a pure accident and the police do not suspect foul play, just an unfortunate series of events.

wife shoots husbandZia Zegule, 28 years old, planned on treating his wife to something special. He left for the Fort Bragg military base at 8am as he typically does, but turned around and tip toed back into the house. Unfortunately for him, he tripped the silent alarm in the process.

Zia gathered a breakfast to surprise his wife, but when he got to the bedroom door, she shot through it hitting him in the chest. Tiffany had gone back to sleep since her husband left and woke up in fear for her life. She took action and fired the shot.

Realizing she had shot her husband, she immediately called 911 for help.

When the paramedics arrived on the scene, Zia was talking and described as responsive as he was placed in the ambulance. He was in stable condition and fully expected to recover.

The neighbors and police department are saying Tiffany might have been a bit spooked because of some recent home burglaries in the neighborhood recently. Also, it is unclear at this time if Zia announced himself as being home. Most suspect he didn’t, otherwise Tiffany would have known it to be him.

Thankfully, Zia is expect to make a full recovery.

Source: Daily Mail

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Viola Davis Wins People’s Choice Awards Speech, Then Throws Shade, But At Who?

We know you love Viola Davis because of her looks, body, talent, bold decisions and acting ability. Not to mention she just won the 2015 People’s Choice Awards on Wednesday, January 7.

The famed actress won the award for Favorite Actress in a New TV Series for her roll as Annalise Keating. This is from the smash hit show, How to Get Away With Murder, produced by the wonderful Shonda Rhimes.

viola davis throws shadeAfter she received her award, she tossed some subtle shade:

“Thank you Shonda Rhimes, Betsy Beers, and Peter Nowalk for thinking of a leading lady who looks like my classic beauty,” she said with a twinkle in her eye. “I’m so happy that people have accepted me in this role at this stage in my career.”

Burn!

She is referring to the New York Times article written by Alessandra Standley, a TV critic, where she called Davis “less classically beautiful than [Kerry] Washington.”

As you can imagine the article sparked all sorts of controversy and outrage when she wrote the line, “when Shonda Rhimes writes her autobiography, it should be called ‘How to Get Away With Being an Angry Black Woman.’

I know, right? No she didn’t……but she did.

We couldn’t believe she said it, but it just warmed our hearts to see Davis stand up to this so called critic and toss some shade in her direction on national television during the People’s Choice Awards.

Mad props to you Viola Davis. You are the Shade Champ of the week!

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Love & Diss Hop: Are TI & Tiny’s Relationship In Trouble?

TI and Tiny have been the second coming of the Cosby family, but in real life to many of their fans. Their hit reality TV show “The Family Hustle” even dawns a new introduction like that of the Cosby show in the 1980’s. (It is actually kind of cool.)

However, there seems to be trouble in the hustle.

We are certain you are familiar with the Floyd Mayweather controversy that seems to be looming over the heads of the couple, but that isn’t it. Apparently before this, TI and Tiny were having trouble with their relationship. This isn’t uncommon for couples at all, but when the issues are aired in the plain view of media and fans, then minor issues can be compounded.

T.I.-And-Tiny-Splitting-Up1Enter Tiny’s Diss Song

Tiny, Tameka Harris age 39, just released her first song in over 10 years. We are sure you remember her from the all girl group Xscape, but the song she released had nothing to do with the topics the ladies use to take up. This one seems to be about her husband and is entitled “What the [email protected]#K are you Gon Do?”

As you can imagine, the song is a bit raw and to the point as the hook she sings is “What the [email protected]#K are you Gon Do?” with fingers pointed at the camera and mad attitude included. One can only speculate that she was talking to and about her husband, TI.

On the Wendy Williams Show, Tiny admitted that the song was indeed about her husband and their relationship. However, she wrote the song over a year ago when the couple was going through some issues. She decided to release the song to get some of her feelings off her chest and to let her husband know how she felt about their relationship and where she stands.

Tiny also admitted she was not aware of TI’s new song until it was released. She said she was checking out how her song was doing on iTunes when she discovered he had released a song as well.

TI’s Loving Hip Hop

Conversely to Tiny’s Diss song, TI made a song called “Stay”. In the song, he explains to his wife that he has made some mistakes being down right foolish, but is interesting in staying in the marriage and keeping the love of his life. He tells her how he feels about her and how he would kill, do jail time, even get down on his knees to keep her.

All of this is very different to the tone and delivery of Tiny’s song making people speculate that TI wants to keep his marriage in place and Tiny might be interested in moving on.

All of this is speculation as the couple has publicly said they are working things out and plan on staying together.

However, on the Wendy Williams show, Tiny didn’t have on her wedding ring. She claims her ring finger was jammed and is swollen, but Wendy wasn’t buying it.

What say you?

Do you think the couple will make it through this rough patch? They say Facebook and social media can break up marriages and relationships, but are things much worse when you are celebrities and all your business is all over social and mainstream media?

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7 Places To Meet A Qualified Black Mate

Hang around singles long enough and the discussion of lack of qualified mates in the world is bound to come up. There is no way of avoiding it. It is a major topic of concern, particularly in the black community.

Women worry with the number of black men in jail or enrolled in the corrections system, there are not enough qualified men in the world. Men are concerned with the elevation of “reality stars”, women are just concerned with the money and status of a man. Both are having struggles finding their caliber of qualified mates.

I thought I might interject and get the juices flowing on where you can find a qualified mate. Everyone’s taste and standards are different, but if you are fishing in better ponds, then you are bound to catch better fish.

black-african-american-couple-datingHere are 7 ponds you should consider fishing:

Volunteering

Volunteering is a great way to get outside of your outside of your home, circle and give back to the community. Lord knows there are millions of people out there that could use your time, energy and effort, so it is a great move. In addition, there are other wonderful people participating and volunteering as well.

I’m not telling you to attend these events solely looking for a mate, but if you are a giving person, then look around while you are there. The people at volunteer events get it. They want to serve the world and community in their way. They understand the great quote, “service is the rent we pay for the space we take up on earth.”

Isn’t this the type of person you want to end up with at the end of the day? Someone who is willing to give service to others.

Book Club

Believe it or not, there are still book clubs in existence. I should know, I am a part of one and I love it, so I know people are still mentally engaging over books they have read.

People in book clubs are typically interest in continuing their learning, development and working on becoming a better person. More great traits you would love to see in your mate.

Cultural Event

It is time for you to get out of your shallow fishing ponds of the local parties, night clubs and bars. Venture out into the wild of the city and cultural life. Learn about your area, heritage, or culture through museums, lectures, or dance. There is a spectactular world out there and some wonderful people looking to expand their horizons.

Fitness Center

Don’t be the creepy guy or girl at the gym starring at the people you find attractive. That is a sure fire way to turn them completely off from ever wanting to meet you. However, do be friendly, but not aggressive.

People who frequent the gym enjoy their quite time working on their health, so the opportunities for long conversations are typically not there. However, there is time for engagement with a person who sees their health an important part of their day and future.

Industry Events

No matter your field, there are industry events from classes, lectures to networking events. Get out there and meet the people in your field. Strike up conversations and maybe much more.

Professional Associations

If you have a MBA, then join the Black MBA association. If you are a lawyer, then join their association. Just about every field has theses associations to get to know one another, refer business and job opportunities. There is nothing against the rules that says you can’t meet great people and take the relationship further if you like.

A Friend’s Get Together

Maybe it doesn’t happen often, but it is possible. Since birds of a feather flock together, you might be in luck at a friend’s event and meet someone you have a lot in common with and are interested in pursuing a bit further.

One thing is for certain, if you continue to stay in the house or fishing in the same old ponds, then you won’t find someone new or right for you.

Keep in mind, just because you meet them in one of these environments doesn’t mean they are right for you. You must continue the qualifying process, but at least they are getting off to a right start by being in one of these environments. You have to do the work to find out if they are the one.

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Tell the truth ladies, Could You Walk Away From Omari Hardwick Like Mary Jane Did?

I know you were watching “Being Mary Jane” last night. If not, you should have because it went down as usual, but had a twist at the end I can’t front…I didn’t see coming.

Being I thought this entire series and show as going to be about the broken black woman finding unforbidden love in a married man to fill the void in her life, I was thrown for a loop.  Couldn’t believe my eyes when Mary Jane, Gabrielle Union, told Andre, Omari Hardwick, to get out and find a new place to live.

being mary jane omariJust in case you don’t watch the show, let me bring you up to speed. Mary Jane is a successful news anchor doing well for herself. She met a man. Fell for him, then found out he was married. Tried to leave it alone, but her feelings were involved. He left his wife and kids for her. Moved in with Mary Jane while his new place was being finished. And Mary Jane decided this wasn’t going to work for her, so he needed to move out.

Mary Jane decided all of this after visiting with her Ex at a charity event. They danced and she thought old feelings were growing, but then he told her he was serious and engaged with someone. Mary Jane was crushed.

After Googling the her Ex’s new boo, she discovered she was a white girl. I think that really took Mary Jane by surprise. She was all up in her feelings, then she demanded Andre, Omari Hardwich, to get out.

Could You Walk Away From Omari Hardwick Like Mary Jane Did?

I said all of that to bring you up to speed for this point. You know damn well a LARGE PERCENTAGE of you wouldn’t walk away like Mary Jane did. I know you want to think you would, but I’ve seen you all over Twitter, in the chat groups and on Facebook talking about it.

1. Y’all are saying he is “TOO DAMN FINE” to walk away from like that.

It is always funny to hear women let loose and be a bit raunchy. Men think they get wild in a barber shop, but have clearly never been to a beauty salon or in a close circle of girlfriends. I can assure you. It goes down! And when it comes to Omari Hardwich, women are going hard in the paint.

2. You Love his Business Savvy and Finances

Clearly, he handles his business and women love this. He has his own money. Can take care of his family and spoil you in the process. Y’all have spoken on this at length and it is an open understanding you love it.

3. He left his wife for you.

Perhaps this is the biggest development. He actually left his wife and family for the side chick.

You almost never hear of this ending in a happy ending for the side chick. The man usually strings her along telling her whatever she needs to hear to keep giving him what he wants, but this one turned out different. He left his wife and family for the side chick, so you stand by his side.

Did I mention women think this guy is a walking God.

So what do you say ladies, could you walk away from Omari Hardwich like Mary Jane?

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Man Rule for the Ladies: As T.I. Told His Wife, Stop Exposing Yourself To Social Media

This has been a hot topic in many circles lately, so it is good TI and Tiny have brought it into the public. Should ladies expose themselves on social media websites like Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter? Expose in the since of taking provocative pictures in skimpy clothing, sitting atop a sink, or any other lady curve lead.

The general man rule says no. This isn’t a good look.

Men are not big on having their women flaunting their goodies all over social media. This is why the vast majority of the women doing it are single…and will remain single.

TinySure, you have many suitors calling, asking to take you out for dinner or hit it, but who wants to to put a ring on it? Not many when it boils down to it. Men who chase women like this are merely hunting and circling fresh meat. If you are going to put it out there like that, these are the men you are going to meet. They will tell you what you need to hear to reach their objective.

A woman that is willing to make herself seen by the public isn’t the type of woman the so called good man wants or needs. He wants to keep all the goodies for himself. I’m not saying every man because I know you think your man (or future man) is different. Ok, don’t say I didn’t warn you.

T.I. Calls Tiny Out for Instagram Pictures.

Tiny, rapper T.I.’s wife, was posting pictures on Instagram that featured her backside lately. Apparently, it got to be too much for T.I., so on one of his pictures he commented.

U have so much more going for u other than your a$. Although it is magnificent,  I think u should spend just as much time showcasing those other things as u do ya booty..awesome pic luv.

To which Tiny responded:

I wasn’t showing off my ass in this pic it was about my waist..u just looking at the ass bae! U no I wasn’t saying getting my sh-t together about my ass now don’t u? But glad u like it bae

Source: Necole Bitchie.com: T.I. Tells His Wife To Stop Posting Her A$$ On Instagram 

What is funny about Tiny’s response is she is probably being sincere with her response. However, T.I. knows what the real deal is. And people like to get ideas.

You see the Muslim men like to keep their woman covered from head to toe.

Many black men are not going that far, but they will prefer a ban of revealing selfies on your social media accounts.

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7 Black Women Sapiosexual Black Men Love

Believe it or not, every black man is not drooling over half dressed women. It can be difficult to tell because the thirsty black men seem to be everywhere and the media gives them ample attention. Despite all of this, some some black men are attracted to women with beautiful minds, intellect and communication skills.

These are the Sapiosexual black men. You may have not heard of the term sapiosexual, but here is the definition.

Sapiosexual:

Noun. A person sexually attracted to intelligence or the human mind.

Adjective. Attracted to intelligence or the human mind.

7SapiosexualWomenMenLoveHere are the women we feel meet the desires of sapiosexual black men.

Michelle Obama

Michelle LaVaughn Robinson Obama, an American lawyer and writer, is the wife of the 44th and current President of the United States, Barack Obama, and the first African-American First Lady of the United States. Wikipedia

Michelle Alexander

Michelle Alexander is an associate professor of law at Ohio State University, a civil rights advocate and a writer. Wikipedia

Tamron Hall

Tamron Hall is a national correspondent for NBC News and NBC’s Today. She is a day-side anchor for MSNBC and host of the program NewsNation with Tamron Hall. Wikipedia

Melissa Harris-Perry

Melissa Victoria Harris-Perry is an American writer, professor, television host, and political commentator with a focus on African-American politics. Harris-Perry hosts the Melissa Harris-Perry weekend news and opinion television show on MSNBC. Wikipedia

Dr. Imani Perry

Imani Perry is an author and a Professor in the Center for African American Studies at Princeton University. She is an interdisciplinary scholar who studies race and African American culture using the tools provided by various disciplines including: law, literary and cultural studies, music, and the social sciences. Huffpost

Nikki Jones

Social Science Editor Nikki Jones is an associate professor in the Department of Sociology at the University of California, Santa Barbara.Between Good and Ghetto, her first book, was published in 2009. The Public Intellectual

Shonda Rhimes

Shonda Rhimes is an American screenwriter, director and producer. Rhimes is best known as the creator, head writer, and executive producer of the medical drama television series Grey’s Anatomy and its spin-off Private Practice. Wikipedia

There is nothing like a beautiful, black women with a great mind. All real, black, sapiosexual men will fall for one every single time.

Who would you add to this list?

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6 Dating Color Complexes Black Men Have That Need To Change

The subject of color complexes in the black community is nothing new, but makes for an interesting discussion when it comes to dating. We know many of our people, especially black men, struggle with the disease known as color complex, but I promise I have a solid point to make at the end of the article, so please stay with me.

As a black male, I can tell you with ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY many of these color complex stereotypes exist in the black community. They are relics of the mental and physical retardation effects of slavery and perpetuated in the music, culture and stories told by black men over the generations. They are frustrating, degrading, and most of the time down right off basis, but they continue to live and breathe in our community for the consumption of the next generation.

shades of womenLet’s air them out and have a discussion.

Light Skinned Women Are More Attractive

Unfortunately, this is a color complex taught to men at an early age. Maybe it has something to do with the “Baby Doll Test” that has black children selecting the white baby doll over the black one. They attribute beauty and good behaviors to the white baby doll and ugly, bad behaviors to the black doll.

The media is saturating our minds with white images and we are associating beauty with them. The residual effect on dating is men attribute “light skinned” women with being closer to white, therefore, they are beautiful.

Nevertheless, if you listen to hip hop music or sit around in a barber shop, you will find men the country over talking about how light skinned women are just more attractive.

Brown Skinned Women Are Down To Earth And Natural

The brown skinned woman can’t escape the stereotyping of black men in the dating area, but mostly in a positive manner. Brown skinned sisters are thought to be more down to earth, “real” than the other shades of black women. They are said to be easier to talk to, have better personalities, and a more endearing disposition.

Dark Skinned Women Are Demanding & Difficult To Engage In A Relationship

Dark skinned women seem to have it the roughest in black men circles. They are not seen as the best looking as you will commonly hear someone say, “she is pretty for a dark skinned woman,” but they are also thought to be the most demanding in relationships.

The thought is they want everything done there way or the highway without any deviation from this position. They constantly nag their man to death about the most trivial things and communication with them is always dreadful. Most men want to avoid them at all cost.

Asian Women Make You Feel Like A Man

Extending the conversation a little bit, let’s throw Asian women into the discussion. Black men feel Asian women really know how to cater to their man. They take care of you like a King putting their needs before hers. You know, how most men feel a relationship should go….all about them. The stereotype of Asian women is they elevate their man and make them feel whole again.

White Women Listen And Allow You To Take The Lead In the Relationship

You will hear black man saying you should date a white woman. Not because they are more attractive, are rich or anything like this, but because they will take a back seat to you. They listen to their black men and follow their lead. These are endearing traits many black men desire in a mate, but claim black women cannot fulfill….all the time.

What Would You Add To This List?

I’m sure these are not all the color complexes of the black men in the community. Take a moment after the article and throw a couple of thoughts on the fire.

While you are considering the question, allow me to wrap up with my observation. These color complexes are silly. If any man really believes any of these are true, then ladies you should have your head examined for dating or even considering dating this man because he is just being ridiculous.

Our behaviors, actions, beliefs and morals don’t come from the color of our skin. They come from our parents, family, community and village we grow up in. They come from the books we read, the educational lessons, and the religion we embrace, not the color of our skin.

Black men, please stop perpetuating these ridiculous stereotypes about our black women and only believe the positive ones about other races. Black women are much more valuable than the opinions of a few misogynistic, bitter and ill-informed myths floating around our communities. If you can’t understand or accept this, then you are fulfilling the negative stereotype, not our beautiful black women of all shades.

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