J. Cole Will Let Single Mothers Live in His Childhood Home for Free

J. Cole has been very busy this past year. With his 3rd #1 album, 2014 Forest Hills Drive, Jermaine Cole has made his way to the hearts of new and old fans alike. The rapper invited people to the home in which the album was named after for a listening party, and now he wants to do even more. J. Cole announced that he will be using the home, in which he recently bought back, for single mothers with multiple children to live in rent-free.

jcole_2014foreshillsdrivereview_splash650J. Cole opened up in an interview for the Combat Jack show about the cultural shock he experienced from moving from military housing in Germany to Fayetteville, North Carolina when his mother and father split.

“It was my first taste of like, ‘Oh, shit. This is nothing like where we came from.’

“It was my first taste of like, ‘Oh, shit. This is nothing like where we came from.’ I knew the energy was not right. I knew my mother was the only white lady in the neighborhood and there was no man in the house.”

J. Cole also talked about the frustration he felt when he heard his mother had lost the home on his newest single, Apparently. He does not currently live in the residence, but wants it to be a place for families. “Every two years a new family will come in, they live rent-free. The idea is that it’s a single mother with multiple kids and she’s coming from a place where all her kids is sharing a room. She might have two, three kids, they’re sharing a room. She gets to come here rent free. I want her kids to feel how I felt when we got to the house.”

What do you think about the project?

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Ludacris Gets Engaged and Married On The Same Day: Too Soon?

By now, you may have heard that rapper and actor Christopher “Ludacris” Bridges popped the question to his long time girlfriend Eudoxie Mbouguiengue on Christmas Eve. Ludacris proposed on a private jet to Costa Rica, accompanied with friends. The proposal was shared with Instagram and Twitter followers, and garnered lots of “congrats” messages from friends and fans alike.

Ludacris Wedding 3Then, we learned another tid bit. The two got hitched before the new year started! Ludacris posted the following caption to a photo of he in a tux and Eudoxie in a beautiful wedding gown:

Why wait? Did the thing before 2015. #mrandmrsbridges

It appears the couple got married shortly after the engagement, possibly that same evening according to rumors. Eudoxie told E! News “We chose a simple and intimate wedding that was perfect for us. We wanted the day to be about our loving commitment to each other.”

The two have been dating since 2009, but there was also a short break where Ludacris fathered a child outside the relationship. Many questioned Eudoxie would take him back.

So what constitutes as too soon to get married? Most, obviously, weren’t surprised about the proposal after 5 years, but how long “should” an engagement last? Let’s not forget, Lady O (Oprah) has been engaged since the beginning of time it seems like. Engagement is saying you want to get married anyway, so why not after a couple of hours?

What are your thoughts?

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3 Questions to Ask Before Accepting a Proposal

This weekend, the OWN TV show Iyanla Fix My Life featured a couple who were on the rocks after 20 years of marriage. In one part of the episode, the man informed his wife that when he asked her to marry him, he was “joking”. He wasn’t ready to get married, and he didn’t want to get married. While this is a betrayal of epic proportion, especially after years of being together, many people have experienced this to some degree.

After dating your significant other for a while, the two of you may be talking about a future together. It sounds wonderful, and you anticipate the day where the two of you will get married. So when he pops the question, you’re excited and emotional. This is what you’ve been waiting for! However, there are a few things you should ask your partner before you accept the proposal.

“Are you sure this is what you want?”Proposing

You would think that a lot of thought goes into the big question before it’s asked, but sometimes, it’s asked on impulse or unclear thinking. Your relationship could be going very well, and engagement (then marriage) seems like the most obvious next step. However, some people have drastically different reasons for getting married.

Your partner’s response can give you insight as to what they’re really thinking. There’s no “right answer” necessarily, but there are certainly a few wrong ones. One of those answers is out of obligation. You don’t want to marry someone because they feel that they have to. This will certainly build resentment over time. Hesitation is also something to take heed of. And if you have any reservations, you should take that into account as well.

“Where do you see us in the future?”

This question is huge, because if you two have conflicting views, this may cause troubles down the line. Where does your partner see the two of you 10, 20, and 30 years from now? Do you guys have the same future in mind? Do you both see yourselves growing old with each other? Are you all on what I like to call “the same wavelength”?

Some of what goes into this question includes the lifestyle you two envision. Are you in agreement about children? Are you both supportive of each other’s goals? Are they going to take the vows “for richer or for poorer, through sickness and through health, until death do us part” seriously? Or do you think when thick and thin comes into play, your marriage may not weather the storm?

“Are you ready for change?”

I once heard or read that women get married expecting to change a man, and men get married expecting their wife will never change. Some couples get married because things are going good at the moment they’re dating. The honeymoon phase eventually ends. Married life is different from dating life. Change is inevitable in a long term relationship, but you can’t make someone change. Are you and your significant other ready for that?

Marriage is something to take seriously, as it’s meant to be a lifelong commitment. These questions are not the only ones; you and your significant other have a lot to discuss before you get married. Discussing financial expectations, religious and spiritual beliefs, and work goals are very important. And, you have some questions you should ask yourself too. These questions aren’t meant to ruin the magical moment, but they’re meant to give you a more realistic look if marriage between you two is the right decision.

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Ludacris Can’t Pay Full Child Support Because Paul Walker Died

After the unexpected passing of Paul Walker, friends and costars from the Fast & Furious franchise expressed their sympathy and condolences. Many fans wondered with the death would mean for the upcoming 7th installment of the series, since it was in production at the time of Walker’s passing. Now it seems those who mourned the death of Walker are now blaming their financial woes on his death.

ludacris_Rapper Ludacris, who plays Tej Parker in the movies, is claiming he can’t pay the $15,000/month his daughter’s mother, Tamika Fuller, is asking for. Ludacris said he was expecting to make payments with the money he would receive from Fast & Furious, but the movie’s production was brought to a halt after Walker’s passing.

He told the courts he only made $55,000 in 2013, and is only able to pay $1,800/month for his 2-month-old daughter Cai. For now, the judge has ordered Ludacris to pay $7,000/month until financials are reviewed.

Fellow costar Tyrese has claimed similar financial issues. He was banking on Fast & Furious 7 money to make ends meet as well, even though he’s been touring the UK with his group with Ginuwine and Tank, TGT, as well as working on his next solo studio album “Black Rose”.

Both Ludacris and Tyrese are men who have had successful careers before coming into this movie franchise. Tyrese has acted in other movies and had a modeling career, a solo artist, and has even written a book. Ludacris also got some acting chops on television and on the big screen, as well as multiple platinum albums and tours. So why are they crying broke now, and putting all their eggs in the Fast & Furious, especially after their “friend” passed away?

What are your thoughts?

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Ray Rice Knocks Out Fiancee. Is It Ever Okay To Hit a Woman?

In today’s news, Baltimore Ravens’ player Ray Rice and his fiancee Janay Palmer were both arrested this weekend for simple assault-domestic violence in Atlantic City, New Jersey. The couple had a physical altercation, in which the report says that Palmer struck Rice, and Rice picked Palmer up by her arms out of an elevator and slammed her on the ground, knocking her out. There is video of Rice’s part of the fight, which was posted on TMZ, but his lawyer claims it does not show the whole incident.

ray rice knock outThis is reminiscent of Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson and his domestic issue with his ex-wife Evelyn Lozada in 2012. The couple got into an argument after Lazada confronted Johnson about her suspicion of him cheating. The argument escalated, and Johnson head-butted her, leaving a visible gash. They divorced shortly after this.

Ray Rice Knocks Out Fiancee. Is It Ever Okay To Hit a Woman?

And of course, the infamous story about Chris Brown and Rihanna. The couple had an extremely public domestic violence case, in which Chris Brown was charged with two felony assault counts. Their argument started when Rihanna confronted Chris about a text message from another woman. There is speculation, although not confirmed, that Rihanna may have hit Chris first. But the report is clear that Brown hit her head against the window, punched her, and tried to shove her out the car. Her injuries were made public after TMZ showed her picture following the fight.

Each one of these instances started with an argument and escalated into physical violence. The public has shared their opinions in each case, some saying that a man should never put his hands on a woman, others saying the woman may have been “asking for it”, either by getting in the man’s face with an issue, or possibly putting her hands on him first. Our question is: Is it ever okay to hit a woman? Yes, no, it depends? And if it depends, what are the limitations?

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Lady Law: 3 Reasons You Should Stop Posting Selfies On Social Media

MySpace started it. The ability to add pictures on your profile and have people comment on them. 8 was a reasonable number to start with, but it had to be your best 8. Maybe a few of your best shots, a couple with friends and family. Then they allowed people to upload more than 8, therefore, more pictures to receive praise. Add on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and we’re now in what I call selfie nation.

LadyLaw1Selfies aren’t new; people have been taking their own photos for years, especially with the rise of camera phones. But social media has definitely taken it to another level. Now you’ve got women not only taking mirror shots for a recent profile picture, but taking countless photos in various poses for online praise. I’m not talking about the simple smiley photos, but the ones where it’s clear you’re seeking attention. Bathroom counter poses, pictures in provocative clothes, cleavage shots, the works. “Instagram models” are on the rise, trying to outdo the other girl by showing off their body for the most likes and comments.

1. It Shows You’re Just a Pretty Face or Nice Body

I’ve seen many men on Twitter admitting that they do the “superficial follow”, where they follow a girl’s account just because she looks good. Then it pains them to realize that it ends there: nothing but a pretty face or a nice body. No stimulating conversation. Nothing of substance. There are even Twitter accounts dedicated to these pictures like @PostBadBitches. If you’re looking for a man, photos of yourself may initially catch his attention, but it sure won’t keep it.

Even rapper T.I. called out his wife Tiny saying she didn’t have to expose herself on social media. A real man doesn’t want his woman’s goodies out there for everybody to see.

2. It Attracts the Wrong Attention

It always amuses me when women post pictures that are a bit steamy, then want to call out men as “thirsty” for responding to it. Some people call these pictures thirst traps, because it’s obvious that you want the attention, then get upset when you get it. It all comes down to who you’re trying to impress. If you’re posting a picture focusing on your breasts, you’re going to get comments on your breasts. If you post pictures in your underwear, you’re going to get a response to that. If that makes you uncomfortable, then why are you doing it?

3. It’s Public

Every social network has privacy settings, but the default is usually public. Meaning if someone types in your name or username, you will definitely appear in search engines. How awkward would it be if you’re in the running for a job, and the potential employer does their research on you, and all they see is you taking pictures of yourself, sometimes in questionable poses that don’t reflect the company’s culture? Even with your profiles “private”, you can never be too sure.

People like to see that you have more to offer. You can be admired for your beautiful face and your curvaceous body, but there’s some things we don’t all need to see. Your man won’t want everybody seeing it. Your employer doesn’t want to see it. And your friends are tired of seeing it. Do better ladies!

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Woman Murders Boyfriend Over His #WomanCrushWednesday

If you’re a participant of Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, you know that people use different days of the week to post certain pictures. One that gets some couples a little anxious is #ManCrushMonday and #WomanCrushWednesday. One Chicago woman didn’t take too kindly to her boyfriend’s crush of the week, so much so, she killed him.

26-year-old Deron Jacobs was stabbed in his sleep by his 24-year-old girlfriend Rachael Edwardson on Thursday morning in the apartment the two of them shared, after he tweeted out his #WCW. Friends of the couple are mortified, claiming there was no violence and no apparent issues between the two outside of typical disagreements.

woman-crush-wednesdayPolice arrived at the scene to find Jacobs dead on arrival, with his iPhone still in his hands. Edwardson was found in the couple’s bathroom, lying face down in the bathtub with her hands behind her back, waiting to be arrested.

According to a close friend of Jacobs, the woman he dubbed his woman crush was a young woman who he followed on Twitter, and exchanged private messages and sexually explicit photos from. However, the two had never met in person. Police are investigating further to find out if there were any other motives, or if this was simply a crime of passion, fueled by insecurity and jealousy.

Edwardson is considered innocent until proven guilty in the court of law. If convicted of first degree murder, she is looking at a life sentence in prison.

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Pregnant from Oral. Father Still Has to Pay

The urban legend of getting “trapped” by a kid just went up a notch. A woman is forcing a man to pay child support for a baby she had without his knowledge. How did she do it? She performed oral, saved the sperm, put it in a tube, and impregnated herself.

Obviously, her former love is outraged that the woman is attempting to receive financial assistance for a child that he not only had no knowledge about, but also was not exactly a willing participant in creating. He would like to claim theft, but can’t, since the law states he did willingly give his sperm away, even if it wasn’t in the natural way a baby is made.

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The woman: Dr. Sharon Irons, accused of a “calculated, profound personal betrayal.” The man: Dr. Richard O. Phillips, suing for emotional distress as he was ordered to pay $800 a month in child support after a paternity suit that Dr. Irons filed proved he was the father of her child. Dr. Phillips had no idea about the child for almost two years. The child is now 5-years-old.

Fraud and theft claims have been dismissed by lower and higher courts. Apparently, there’s a thin line between deceitfully engaging in physical acts and consensual relations.

According to the law, Dr. Phillips’ sperm wasn’t stolen; it was given away, for Dr. Irons to use as she pleased.

The ruling stated, “When [the] plaintiff ‘delivered’ his sperm, it was a gift — an absolute and irrevocable transfer of title to property from a donor to a done. There was no agreement that the original deposit would be returned upon request.”

There is no word on whether or not Dr. Phillips is an active participant in the child’s life, as he continues to state that he feels “trapped in a nightmare”.

What do you think? Should Dr. Phillips have to pay or is this an outrageous crime committed against him?

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Top Model Eva is a New Mom

Actress and winner of the 3rd season of America’s Next Top Model, Eva Marcille, gave birth to a healthy baby girl on Friday.

Marcille reposted her boyfriend Kevin McCall’s Instagram photo, which was captioned:

“Wow she has her mothers eyes. Never knew I could fall in love again @evamarcille #prouddad. I’ve never known a love like this.”

Eva Marcille Pregnant
Eva announced that she was expecting a child with her songwriter boyfriend back in August in an exclusive interview with BET. During the interview, Eva expressed, “Being able to bring a life into the world is every woman’s dream but for me it’s more than just a dream it is a magical, mystical journey which I get to share with this amazing man.”

Congratulations to Eva & Kevin!

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4 Qualities Richard Sherman Has That Your Ideal Mate Should Have

For the past 2 weeks or so, Richard Sherman has been all over the place. News, magazines, blogs, and it’s only going to continue the closer we get to the SuperBowl. While some have a less than stellar opinion of the Seattle Seahawks cornerback, we can all take a page or two out of the book of who Sherman is, on and off the field. Some of this man’s traits are things we may be looking for in an ideal mate.

Hear us out…

richard sherman1. Educated

Sherman was a scholar-athlete and Salutatorian at Dominguez High School in Compton, California. He went on to Stanford University, where he received a degree in communications. It’s very clear from many of his media appearances that he is a well spoken, and articulate man. While your mate doesn’t have to receive an Ivy League education, isn’t it nice to be with an intellectual? A lot of people say it’s brains, not beauty, that turns them on.

2. Philanthropic

In June 2013, Sherman started a charity called “Blanket Coverage – The Richard Sherman Family Foundation”, which assists children with resources like school supplies and clothing. A person who gives back to the community is a keeper. Maybe you can’t start a whole foundation, but you can certainly volunteer your time in the community and lend a helping hand.

3. Spontaneous

One thing the public and the media can agree on, especially in light of the post-game interview that catapulted him into this most recent frenzy, Richard Sherman sure is spontaneous! No one could have ever guessed what he was going to say to the reporter in the heat of the moment. But spontaneity is a good trait to have in relationships. Routine gets boring. Sometimes you want to spice things up and keep your mate guessing.

4. Passionate

“Don’t you ever talk about the best!” Sherman is passionate about his career. He plays with the fire that shows how much he loves football. Wouldn’t that be a great thing to feel from your significant other? Wouldn’t you want someone to be that passionate about you, making sure that they are doing their best every day to make the relationship work? Be passionate about your mate, and show the same fiery desire for them.

What are some other qualities Richard Sherman exhibits that would make for a good mate?

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