J. Cole Will Let Single Mothers Live in His Childhood Home for Free

J. Cole has been very busy this past year. With his 3rd #1 album, 2014 Forest Hills Drive, Jermaine Cole has made his way to the hearts of new and old fans alike. The rapper invited people to the home in which the album was named after for a listening party, and now he wants to do even more. J. Cole announced that he will be using the home, in which he recently bought back, for single mothers with multiple children to live in rent-free.

jcole_2014foreshillsdrivereview_splash650J. Cole opened up in an interview for the Combat Jack show about the cultural shock he experienced from moving from military housing in Germany to Fayetteville, North Carolina when his mother and father split.

“It was my first taste of like, ‘Oh, shit. This is nothing like where we came from.’

“It was my first taste of like, ‘Oh, shit. This is nothing like where we came from.’ I knew the energy was not right. I knew my mother was the only white lady in the neighborhood and there was no man in the house.”

J. Cole also talked about the frustration he felt when he heard his mother had lost the home on his newest single, Apparently. He does not currently live in the residence, but wants it to be a place for families. “Every two years a new family will come in, they live rent-free. The idea is that it’s a single mother with multiple kids and she’s coming from a place where all her kids is sharing a room. She might have two, three kids, they’re sharing a room. She gets to come here rent free. I want her kids to feel how I felt when we got to the house.”

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Should Miss Jamaica have won Miss Universe?

Even if you didn’t watch the Miss Universe contest last night, you have heard about the controversy. There is always controversy and high drama surrounding these competitions, but really this was a whole new level.

Miss Jamaica, Kaci Fennell, was clearly the crowd and internet favorite to win the compition. However, when she exited the top five there were audible boos from the audience. People were in disbelief and shock that this beauty didn’t pull it out.

AFP 537135352 S TEN ENT USA FLThe eventual winner of the copeition was Miss Columbia Paulina Vega. People congratulated her, but it is clear who everyone thought should have won the competition by the chatter in the audience and on Twitter.

According to their comments, Fennell was flawless, smart, elegant, georgeous, dope and had the goods to win the competition.

What did you think? Should Miss Jamaica have won the Miss Universe competition?

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Ludacris Gets Engaged and Married On The Same Day: Too Soon?

By now, you may have heard that rapper and actor Christopher “Ludacris” Bridges popped the question to his long time girlfriend Eudoxie Mbouguiengue on Christmas Eve. Ludacris proposed on a private jet to Costa Rica, accompanied with friends. The proposal was shared with Instagram and Twitter followers, and garnered lots of “congrats” messages from friends and fans alike.

Ludacris Wedding 3Then, we learned another tid bit. The two got hitched before the new year started! Ludacris posted the following caption to a photo of he in a tux and Eudoxie in a beautiful wedding gown:

Why wait? Did the thing before 2015. #mrandmrsbridges

It appears the couple got married shortly after the engagement, possibly that same evening according to rumors. Eudoxie told E! News “We chose a simple and intimate wedding that was perfect for us. We wanted the day to be about our loving commitment to each other.”

The two have been dating since 2009, but there was also a short break where Ludacris fathered a child outside the relationship. Many questioned Eudoxie would take him back.

So what constitutes as too soon to get married? Most, obviously, weren’t surprised about the proposal after 5 years, but how long “should” an engagement last? Let’s not forget, Lady O (Oprah) has been engaged since the beginning of time it seems like. Engagement is saying you want to get married anyway, so why not after a couple of hours?

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Viola Davis Wins People’s Choice Awards Speech, Then Throws Shade, But At Who?

We know you love Viola Davis because of her looks, body, talent, bold decisions and acting ability. Not to mention she just won the 2015 People’s Choice Awards on Wednesday, January 7.

The famed actress won the award for Favorite Actress in a New TV Series for her roll as Annalise Keating. This is from the smash hit show, How to Get Away With Murder, produced by the wonderful Shonda Rhimes.

viola davis throws shadeAfter she received her award, she tossed some subtle shade:

“Thank you Shonda Rhimes, Betsy Beers, and Peter Nowalk for thinking of a leading lady who looks like my classic beauty,” she said with a twinkle in her eye. “I’m so happy that people have accepted me in this role at this stage in my career.”

Burn!

She is referring to the New York Times article written by Alessandra Standley, a TV critic, where she called Davis “less classically beautiful than [Kerry] Washington.”

As you can imagine the article sparked all sorts of controversy and outrage when she wrote the line, “when Shonda Rhimes writes her autobiography, it should be called ‘How to Get Away With Being an Angry Black Woman.’

I know, right? No she didn’t……but she did.

We couldn’t believe she said it, but it just warmed our hearts to see Davis stand up to this so called critic and toss some shade in her direction on national television during the People’s Choice Awards.

Mad props to you Viola Davis. You are the Shade Champ of the week!

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Be Proud Of Who You Are! (Message To The Young Women Of The World)

“Love yourself, girl, or nobody will. Though you’re a woman, I don’t know how you deal. With all the pressure to look impressive and go out in heels; I feel for you. Killing yourself to find a man that’ll kill for you”

- J. Cole, “Crooked Smile”

The users of this social media world we seemingly live in are always talking about something. This weekend is no different! The internet is ablaze about rapper T.I.’s wife questionable eye color change. Supposedly, she went in with the intent to change the hue of her eyes from a dark brown to a sharp gray color. It’s always disheartening to see a celebrity picked apart for a life decision that isn’t overtly negative but Tiny’s decision to undergo this surgery warrants a deeper discussion.

Tiny is a known figure in the black community due to her marriage to one of the most popular hip-hop artists in recent memory. Let’s not forget to mention that she’s a former member of the R&B group Xscape, successful entrepreneur and reality T.V. star. Every Monday her life is put on display to millions of people around the nation. With that much public visibility comes tremendous influence that many celebrities and T.V. personalities don’t realize that they have.

Tiny advocates eye change to fans When you’re a celebrity, your every move is put under a microscope. Young women  around the nation look up to these T.V. stars almost like role models, associating with  their struggles and triumphs. They then start to dress like their favorite larger than life  personalities, even subliminally taking on their mannerisms and attitude ques. With  great power comes great responsibility and many of these females acting out on these  T.V. shows don’t understand the social ramifications of their actions. I’m making it a  big deal because it is a big deal. I’m not pulling things out the sky. I’m in high school  and I see these females living out their Joseline Hernandez fantasies!

Not to say that Tiny is as deplorable as the cast of the collective Love & Hip Hop   franchise but her realm of influence is wide, maybe even more so than other black  women on reality T.V. to date. Advocating young women to get surgery on their eyes just  to change their eye color isn’t cool at all! And yes, she did advocate unnecessary eye  surgery to her estimated two million social media followers. So a woman that’s on our  television sets every Monday and has a social media reach that extensive isn’t  influential?

This article isn’t about Tiny though, although she sparked the conversation. It’s about the young women that feel inadequate with who they are. Maybe they believe that that, based on the beauty standard of Hollywood, that they’re too big or small, too light or dark, too boisterous or monotone. Appealing to the public runs our mindset but young women are especially forced and coerced to live up to these vain standards.

You never will be fully satisfied if you choose to neglect who you authentically are. Yeah, you may get the adulation of the people around you but how can you look at yourself in the mirror? How can you walk through life knowing that you’re wearing an uncomfortable mask that hides your inner beauty?

There isn’t a need to change anything that isn’t an immediate threat to your health. To exist in a stone cold prison like a public high school, or the world in general, you must walk with your head upright. Your self-esteem should be so high and your self-image should be so positive that you should almost be arrogant! People that you don’t even know will try to block your destiny and break you down but it’s up to you to brush off their negativity and keep it moving.

I’m a young man that values a young woman that knows who she is. Unfortunately, I don’t come in contact with many young women like that because they’re seemingly lost in the crowd of thots, groupies, manipulators and vanity slaves that plague the world. And the few ones I do see are in productive relationships with good brothers that know how to value them. It’s a catch 22 but I know how the game is played.

The thugs, players and heartbreakers get their pick of the litter of the supposed “top-tier” females (usually based on looks only).bild-1 Even the BMS (Business Minded Sisters) fall susceptible to their whims. Meanwhile the BMBs of the world are looked down on for being too focused on their goals and “boring”. But, in ten years or less, these same females that looked down at us BMBs will be choosing up when the guys they wanted back in the day bounce on them and we got wealth, power and influence.

Same ol’ story, just a different generation. When will we ever learn?

Long story short, don’t change yourself to garner our attention. Worry about yourself and what makes you happy. Most guys don’t even understand how you get down anyway! Don’t lose yourself. Be comfortable in the skin you in and you’ll will receive dividends that are substantial.

In relation to Tiny, we can’t shame her for what she does. It’s her life and it doesn’t concern us! She should be cognizant of what she does due to her status though. Not only are her millions of fans watching her moves but her children as well. I’ll leave it at that………

 

#MissingTeenAlert: All my folks in Georgia be on the lookout. Fifteen year old Destiny Taylor has gone missing. Spread the word and bring this young lady back to her parents! 
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Finding Destiny (Resized)

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When Kissing & Telling Goes Wrong: The Nick Cannon Story

“I’ma put it like this: If my marriage don’t work out, it is solely your (Big Boy’s) fault. So go ahead and feel that!”

Nick Cannon, “Big Boy’s Neighborhood”, July 5, 2014

Earlier this week, news leaked that the power couple that is Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon have now parted ways in a quick, sudden divorce. Personally, I was shocked. I’m not a man that chooses to delve in celebrity relationship matters but I look up to Nick Cannon as a role model. He’s a brother that started off in the game young, paid his dues and is now self made and on the top of the world. So I took some free time to research up on what happened to cause them to drift apart. And I was left in shock.

Many reports have come out in the past few days about what happened to cause their marital union to far apart. Some sources say that Mariah felt that Nick wasn’t spending enough time with her, being engulfed in his different movie and television project. While that may have played a part in the tension, many sources say that Nick’s appearance on Los Angeles based radio personality Big Boy’s nationally syndicated radio show Big Boy’s Neighborhood drove a dagger through what was publicly perceived as a productive relationship.

After the interview, Nick Cannon stuck around and played the game “Give Me Five” for Big Boy’s YouTube Channel. The game entails Big Boy asking his celebrity guests five uncensored questions that couldn’t be addressed on the regular show. The discussion quickly tuned into Nick Cannon’s many sexcapades with known celebrities. Instead of dodging the question he engaged Big Boy in the question, putting himself in major hot water with his wife at home

 

Big Boy asked, “How many famous women has Nick Cannon been with?”

Nick  directs his gaze to the sky, spins in his chair and stammers before replying, “What does ‘fame’ mean?”

Nick Cannon Discusses Losing His V-Card, Celebrities He's Smashed, Mariah Carey, and More   BigBoyTV - YouTube Big Boy goes on to further clarify for him, “Somebody that we  know—”

 “Man, that’s a whole lot!”Nick Cannon confidently proclaims,  cutting him off, “I mean, if you think about it………this is L.A.! I  mean, that’s the whole purpose. You have sex with actors,  singers, models…..”

 “I don’t want you to name ten.”

 “Ok.”

 “Name five.”

“Five?”

Big Boy nods, “Name five.”

Nick shrugs his shoulders, “That’s easy!”

“That will watch this and say, ‘He’s not lying. That’s not a liability lawsuit.’”

He quickly ponders and starts counting on his fingers, “Mariah Carey—“

“No, you gotta take Mariah out!”

“Nope, you didn’t say that.”

Big Boy chuckles, “Well go ahead then.”

Nick proceeds without a hitch, answering the infamous question that caused Mariah to allegedly file a divorce from him.

He giggles, “Mariah Carey, Christina Miliian, Nicole Scherzinger…….

Big Boy drops his mouth in awe, “Whoa!”

“Umm……these are people that people already know, Selita Ebanks, umm…..what’s another one that just easy that everybody already knows?”

He puts the icing on the cake by shouting out, “Oh, Kim Kardashian! There, five! This is easy.”

Big Boy dawned a confused stare, “Hey dude, I didn’t know about the…..I must be…..ok….I must be coming from under my rock. I didn’t know that Kim Kardashian thing.”

He sighed, “Yes you did Big.”

“No! Did anybody…….am I lying? Did y’all know this?”

Nick just proceeded to dig his own marital grave!

He laughed, “You probably forgot because there’s been a lot of people since me!”

 

Nick Cannon strikes me as a reasonably intelligent dude, brand conscious dude. I wouldn’t look up to him if he wasn’t. His business acumen is impeccable. But, what on earth possessed him to air out his dirty laundry to the world about how many celebrities he’s slept with? He relegated himself to tactics that I see every day from young men that go to my high school.

It’s one thing to brag to the fellas about who you’ve knockedownloadd down in the past. We naturally tend to boast and showout around our friends anyway. But you’re on an aftershow interview with a respected radio personality that has 51, 457 subscribers to date on his “BigBoyTV” YouTube channel and you choose to fire off people that you’ve messed around with? This is a tragic tale of when kissing and telling goes wrong!

We aren’t in any position to judge what Nick Cannon says or does with his life. But, that doesn’t mean that a lesson can’t be learned here. We need to start thinking with the heads on our shoulders and not with our sexual parts. What may feel good and euphoric now will come back to bite you later. Nick Cannon is a thirty-three year old man with two kids by this woman. What happens to them through this mess? Is it worth it to have the “male industry hoe” label tied to you again? What made him regress to this high school lunch table tactic?

Like I said, Nick Cannon is my man and I still do look up to him. However, he’s not above reproach. In my personal opinion he was wrong for indulging in that conversation when he has a wife at home that’s supposedly wanting to spend more time with him. Big Boy, when he came back around on July 5th to promote his MTV2 show Wildin’ Out jokingly said,

“Let me tell you something Mr. Nick Cannon. Every question doesn’t require a real answer.”

Hey, sometimes the funniest jokes are true…….

 

 

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Love & Diss Hop: Are TI & Tiny’s Relationship In Trouble?

TI and Tiny have been the second coming of the Cosby family, but in real life to many of their fans. Their hit reality TV show “The Family Hustle” even dawns a new introduction like that of the Cosby show in the 1980’s. (It is actually kind of cool.)

However, there seems to be trouble in the hustle.

We are certain you are familiar with the Floyd Mayweather controversy that seems to be looming over the heads of the couple, but that isn’t it. Apparently before this, TI and Tiny were having trouble with their relationship. This isn’t uncommon for couples at all, but when the issues are aired in the plain view of media and fans, then minor issues can be compounded.

T.I.-And-Tiny-Splitting-Up1Enter Tiny’s Diss Song

Tiny, Tameka Harris age 39, just released her first song in over 10 years. We are sure you remember her from the all girl group Xscape, but the song she released had nothing to do with the topics the ladies use to take up. This one seems to be about her husband and is entitled “What the F@#K are you Gon Do?”

As you can imagine, the song is a bit raw and to the point as the hook she sings is “What the F@#K are you Gon Do?” with fingers pointed at the camera and mad attitude included. One can only speculate that she was talking to and about her husband, TI.

On the Wendy Williams Show, Tiny admitted that the song was indeed about her husband and their relationship. However, she wrote the song over a year ago when the couple was going through some issues. She decided to release the song to get some of her feelings off her chest and to let her husband know how she felt about their relationship and where she stands.

Tiny also admitted she was not aware of TI’s new song until it was released. She said she was checking out how her song was doing on iTunes when she discovered he had released a song as well.

TI’s Loving Hip Hop

Conversely to Tiny’s Diss song, TI made a song called “Stay”. In the song, he explains to his wife that he has made some mistakes being down right foolish, but is interesting in staying in the marriage and keeping the love of his life. He tells her how he feels about her and how he would kill, do jail time, even get down on his knees to keep her.

All of this is very different to the tone and delivery of Tiny’s song making people speculate that TI wants to keep his marriage in place and Tiny might be interested in moving on.

All of this is speculation as the couple has publicly said they are working things out and plan on staying together.

However, on the Wendy Williams show, Tiny didn’t have on her wedding ring. She claims her ring finger was jammed and is swollen, but Wendy wasn’t buying it.

What say you?

Do you think the couple will make it through this rough patch? They say Facebook and social media can break up marriages and relationships, but are things much worse when you are celebrities and all your business is all over social and mainstream media?

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These H*es Ain’t Loyal: Is Loyalty & Commitment Foreign In Modern Day Relationships?

“I’ve been with and talked to about every player in Willowsfield.  It’s crazy! Before you, I couldn’t even talk to a guy without them immediately…..sexualizing me. Guys would always scheme on how to get their name popular in the streets by dating and/or taking the virginity of ‘Damon Anderson’s lil’ sister’. I was just seen as a simple way to get petty street fame. I guess my feelings didn’t matter to them.”

-Aaliyah Anderson, from“The Diary Of Aaliyah Anderson” (Available On Amazon Now!)

After reading my last article, you can tell that I’m a huge supporter of Keke Palmer and her new talk show Just Keke. After the historic premier of the show yesterday afternoon, my love for the concept has risen even more. I must admit, some kinks need to be worked out as the flow of the show wasn’t as smooth as it needs to be. But, I have faith in Keke and her production team to get things right in the months and, hopefully, years to come! One of the major highlights of the first episode was when Keke Palmer elaborated on her Twitter comments about the new hit Chris Brown song Loyal. Believe it or not, music is a vital branch of the media. It changes moods, dictates behavior and holds strong subliminal messages, especially when it’s heard repeatedly like most of the songs on the radio. The root motivation of the single has even been discussed in churches around the nation, although rather controversially. famous-loyalty-quotes-and-sayings-5 Like I’ve said numerous times before, I’ve grown in my views and opinions on the world  around me. I believe that artists are entitled to their own respective artistic expression,  no matter how outrageous or wrong you think the message is. We all have opinions on  different topics and subjects and these different, diverse opinions expressed in a  constructive forum can bring better understanding to the various viewpoints we all  have. A perfect example of a constructive forum where a song like Loyal can be discussed is  the Just Keke program. Keke brought a strong, intelligent opinion to the table that  couldn’t be argued with in any capacity. Although her monologue of the social  ramifications of the arrogant mindset boasted in Loyal was short and to the point, it  was enough to make me smile and give me hope for my generation if we continue to  have productive conversations and produce positive, ambitious media projects such as  this.  “My actual interpretation of the song is: if I can take your girl because I’m rich, she ain’t loyal. Right?” The camera panned on several members of the crowd silently nodding in agreement. The camera then turned back on Keke, “But, because the song is so catchy, I feel the words have been twisted and has created this unintentional movement in our generation that puts pressure on girls to prove their loyalty to guys that aren’t loyal to them.” Keke then went on to say, “I’m sorry but I just don’t agree that you should give someone one hundred percent of yourself when they’re not giving one hundred percent of themselves to you. You set the tone for how people treat you. I’m not saying cheat or lie, I’m saying ‘say goodbye’!” Then and there at that very moment, I knew that Keke Palmer wasn’t going to pull any punches when it came to topics discussed on her show. In under a minute, she expressed a summarized version of everything about relationships that I’d put in nearly all of my novels and articles. A relationship in any situation, whether business or intimate, should have all partners involved put in the correct amount of effort for things to be productive. That’s the problem that we see in modern day relationships, especially in my millennial generation. We’re so narcissistic now days! Everything centers around our own interests. While the concept of individualism is great in the big scheme of things, that dangerously taints your approach to intimate relationships. Guys are the biggest proponents of this as our typical “sexual gratification over everything” approach causes unwanted mental stress on the various females that we aim to get with. Lil’ Wayne, one of the artists that did a verse on the song, gave a perfect example of this mindset.

You know how the game goes

She be mine by half time, I’m the sh*t, oh

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Those two lines can cause us to go back to the generation old question of why females mess around with guys they know are no good.  I’ve found that no one really has a clear answer for this. I’ve even asked a few females that I consider friends and they all basically told me that, “Attempting to understand how women think is the hardest thing in the world.” “You haven’t lied yet!” was my response. But, after analyzing Chris Brown’s few verses in the song, I realized that he bringing a different viewpoint to the table. Keke’s right, the message and context of the song was taken completely out of proportion. Let’s not forget that the radio edits turned the song into a misogynist, female hating club song. Just like all the other songs on the radio right? However, Chris is indeed talking about a specific type of girl that is easily swayed to the brother with money even though she has a dude that’s not as monetarily flexible. His verses have an egotistical vibe but, still, it’s a narrative that deserves to get expressed.

When a rich nig*a want you (want you baby)

And your nig*a can’t do nothing for ya (no, nothing)

These h*es ain’t loyal

These h*es ain’t loyal

How far does your loyalty and commitment to your partner stretch? If you’re currently single, how far would your loyalty and commitment to your significant other stretch? While Chris didn’t specify what he means by a “broke nig*a”, he did paint the picture of a guy that actually loyal to his woman to a fault. Who, in this case, is the proverbial “h*e”.

When I call her, she gon’ leave

And I bet that bottom dollar she gon’ cheat

Come on, come on, girl

Why you frontin’?

Baby show me something

You just spent your ring on her

And it’s all for nothing

All in all, I’m a fan of Just Keke. I will be tuning in and participating in the social media discussions every chance that I get. She only has four weeks to show BET that this is a show that has longevity. Let’s reevaluate our view on relationships family! Don’t let anyone take your love for granted like the girl that Chris was talking about in the songs. That goes for the brothers and sisters out there. Don’t get it twisted!

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Femininity Is Dead Pt. 2 (Rhianna vs. TLC)

“Respect yourself and others will respect you.”

- Confucius, “Sayings Of Confucius”

I must admit, I’ve gotten fed up with the dating scene in the black community as of late. This perverted, over-sexualized society that we currently live in has completely warped the mindset of the members of my millennial generation. You can see the epitome of this only looking at some of the young women around me. Is self-respect lost?

Since when has sexual prowess been something more of a commodity than sheer class and intelligence? As a BMB (Business Minded Brother), a woman that has nothing to offer but a big butt and a mean sex game isn’t appealing at all. Maybe that’ll fly for a night or two but no brothers with any game or common sense is paying you any attention. I said it back in my article on Mimi’s sex tape, you have to carry yourself how you want to be treated.

In my years of being in the public school system and training my writing sense, I figured out how to analyze if a female is wortRihanna-CFDA-Dress-600h talking to or even giving energy too. Usually, you can tell by their behavior (obviously), the people they choose to hang around and their entertainment preferences. It’s been brought to my attention that R&B/Pop singer Rhianna is a woman that many young women around me look up to. Some admire her more than Beyoncé and Nicki Minaj!

Nevertheless, Rhianna isn’t the epitome of elegance and class in any way. The quotes “only God can judge me” and “to each its own” are the only ways to explain her crazy antics. Rhianna has been back in the media eye for the virtually invisible dress she wore to the CFDA awards ceremony. The pictures from the event got the social media world talking. Some were in defense of her using the “only God can judge me” style excuse. However, many stood in agreement with the opinion shared by Chili and T-Boz in a recent interview.

The remaining members of TLC said how she dressed was in poor taste. They also pointed out how they became the hottest female R&B group of their time keeping their clothes on. Rhianna wasn’t too pleased with their comments. She immediately changed her profile cover picture to an old topless picture they took to show support for the breast cancer awareness campaign.

The move was obviously to paint Chili and T-Boz as hypocritical old heads hating on the younger generation. But, weren’t they right? The philosophy of womanism and feminism are to provide equal rights for women in this current oppressive society. But, the last time I checked, R&B singers don’t have to come out halfway naked to sell records. They may take their shirts off to show their muscles and put their female fans in a mesmerized daze but that’s the extent of it. Shouldn’t talent matter for women too?

A screenshot of Rhianna's cover picture before she quickly removed it.

A screenshot of Rhianna’s cover picture before she quickly removed it.

 

It’s disheartening to see that twerking, fighting and sex are the only things that young black women can hang on to. I understand the time period that we live in, our current family circumstances, the strong media influence and the fact that women naturally crave attention. However, can it be noted that there’s a better way? Guys have told me that they value a female that doesn’t have to show her behind to get their attention. I’ve said it plenty of times and I’ll say it again!

Now, I’m not a fool in any way. I don’t want to see women walking around like they’re going to a wedding or something all the time! If anything, be a total package. I want a woman that’s beautiful with class, ambition, hustle and intellect with a sensual quality that makes me want to show her how much I love her all the time. That’s not too much to ask is it?

Message to all women: Don’t let your sexual abilities be your only claim to fame. Act the way you want to be treated. Guys worth your attention really want a whole woman. Also (to Rhianna), your point about being your own person is dually noted but let’s not forget that you’re talking to the women that made Unpretty and Waterfall. If anybody knows about becoming a success without walking around half naked in every video, it’s them. Maybe you should take heed!

 

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The Voices Of A New Generation (Inspired By Maya Angelou)

“There is a place in God’s sun for the youth “farthest down” who has the vision, the determination, and the courage to reach it.”

- Mary McLeod Bethune

Marcus Garvey, Martin Luther King Jr., Huey P. Newton and Bobby Seale. What do these extraordinary men have in common? They started to make their mark on the world at a remarkably young age. With the passing of the iconic literary legend that is Dr. Maya Angelou, a conversation has reopened about the youth of today. The question has been asked by many who will continue the work of the ancestors and elders that have passed on to a better place. My question to the people asking that question is this: have i-know-why-the-caged-bird-singsyou not looked at the generation behind you?

Many are blinded and hoodwinked by the pervasive ignorance that is associated with the young people of the black community. There’s so much negativity that has been broadcasted to the world about us that when the topic of passing the torch comes around, we are overlooked entirely. I mean, how is the world going to function when the youth assume there positions as the elders in society? Aren’t we all only concerned with fighting, twerking, smoking weed and buying Jordans? The corporate media stranglehold on black America is frightening and insanely effective.

I came to know about the great Maya Angelou with her poem Still I Rise. My mother, a dynamic public speaker and theater major in college, would always find a way to recite it at whatever function she would be the host of. Even in my early years, the words in the poem resonated with me. It’s such a powerful piece of work! There was especially one part of the poem that spoke volumes to me.

You may shoot me with your words,

You may cut me with your eyes,

You may kill me with your hatefulness,

But still, like air, I’ll rise.

I feel like that one stanza from the poem can have allegorical context to anyone that is going through struggles in their lives. I especially say that those words speak perfectly to the younger generation that was counted out and neutralized before we even had a chance to grow into our own. We go through so many trials and tribulations trying to come into our own as strong, intelligent black men and women, public enemy number one and two.

10374508_888463831170943_5333957199160896559_n Many of us scared to be an authentic individual because of the backlash we would  justly receive from our peers around us. Because of this we grab on to the closest  thing possible to identify with, whether it’s positive or negative. Often times, the  negative side of things is so easy to gravitate towards. It’s instant, it’s gratifying in  itself. Plus, there’s always a large amount of people doing things negative in it’s  origin. Believe it or not, it’s a struggle to walk the right path.

But it is possible!

Let’s use the example of queen mother Maya Angelou. She went through so much  in her long life. But, she found her voice and became one of the most prolific  writers in recent memory. Her work has inspired and uplifted millions of people,  regardless of age, race or gender. Now, she’s immortalized in history!

It’s incredibly disheartening that she left us but let’s not forget the image of class, intellect and elegance that she portrayed on a daily basis. Dr. Angelou stumbled a lot in her life but she eventually found her footing. Can you allow the black youth of the world to find their voice. As a matter of fact, can you assist us in this endeavor? That is how you usher in the next generation of thinkers, scholars, icons and prophets.

We are quickly coming into our own, using our own unique outlets to express our struggles and triumphs to the world. It’s just up to the elders of the community to hear us and take heed of it. The voices of the new generation can’t be silenced. We are here to usher in a new generation of activism, just like Dr. Maya Angelou did before us!

 

Maya Angelou

April 4, 1928-May 28,2014

R.I.P Queen XOXO

 


The Randall Barnes Experience

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-“The Diary Of Aaliyah Anderson” is out now! Make sure to go get it!

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