It seems like the past five years on Father Day social media is overrun with single mothers patting themselves on the back for being the “father” in their children’s lives. Sometimes the children of these single mothers hop on social media accounts to tell their mother “Happy Father’s Day”, collection throwing shade at their deadbeat or non-exempt fathers. To me, this is what I perceive when I see these Father’s day we’ll wishes to mothers. It’s an attempt to be petty and divisive, hopefully winning cool points from their friends that happen to see their post.
As I write this, it is the early morning. By the time this post gets out it’ll be the afternoon where, presumably, church will have concluded. This afternoon will probably be when we see the self-imposed pats on the back, making light of what this day is really supposed to be about. Father’s Day is not an invitation to put your dusty baby daddies on blast. Father’s Day is not for you to pat yourself on the back for doing what an above average mother is supposed to. We have a day for that. It’s called Mother’s Day. So, if you’re a mother saying or accepting someone telling you happy Father’s Day, you deserve all the arguments, blocks and unfriending that you get.
Not to disrespect mother’s that have to carry two loads because of unforseen circumstances such as death or even being with a soldier. Also, this is not to lump dynamic single mothers that engage in this precociousness. If you’re a woman that says they’re “aren’t anymore good black men”, I’m talking to you. To those that have the nerve to ruin this day with your negativity, I’m certainly talking to you. All of you really should be ashamed of yourselves. But, knowing this bunch of individuals, they aren’t ashamed. They’re pleasantly happy with the attention they’re getting.