These H*es Ain’t Loyal: Is Loyalty & Commitment Foreign In Modern Day Relationships?

“I’ve been with and talked to about every player in Willowsfield.  It’s crazy! Before you, I couldn’t even talk to a guy without them immediately…..sexualizing me. Guys would always scheme on how to get their name popular in the streets by dating and/or taking the virginity of ‘Damon Anderson’s lil’ sister’. I was just seen as a simple way to get petty street fame. I guess my feelings didn’t matter to them.”

-Aaliyah Anderson, from“The Diary Of Aaliyah Anderson” (Available On Amazon Now!)

After reading my last article, you can tell that I’m a huge supporter of Keke Palmer and her new talk show Just Keke. After the historic premier of the show yesterday afternoon, my love for the concept has risen even more. I must admit, some kinks need to be worked out as the flow of the show wasn’t as smooth as it needs to be. But, I have faith in Keke and her production team to get things right in the months and, hopefully, years to come! One of the major highlights of the first episode was when Keke Palmer elaborated on her Twitter comments about the new hit Chris Brown song Loyal. Believe it or not, music is a vital branch of the media. It changes moods, dictates behavior and holds strong subliminal messages, especially when it’s heard repeatedly like most of the songs on the radio. The root motivation of the single has even been discussed in churches around the nation, although rather controversially. famous-loyalty-quotes-and-sayings-5 Like I’ve said numerous times before, I’ve grown in my views and opinions on the world  around me. I believe that artists are entitled to their own respective artistic expression,  no matter how outrageous or wrong you think the message is. We all have opinions on  different topics and subjects and these different, diverse opinions expressed in a  constructive forum can bring better understanding to the various viewpoints we all  have. A perfect example of a constructive forum where a song like Loyal can be discussed is  the Just Keke program. Keke brought a strong, intelligent opinion to the table that  couldn’t be argued with in any capacity. Although her monologue of the social  ramifications of the arrogant mindset boasted in Loyal was short and to the point, it  was enough to make me smile and give me hope for my generation if we continue to  have productive conversations and produce positive, ambitious media projects such as  this.  “My actual interpretation of the song is: if I can take your girl because I’m rich, she ain’t loyal. Right?” The camera panned on several members of the crowd silently nodding in agreement. The camera then turned back on Keke, “But, because the song is so catchy, I feel the words have been twisted and has created this unintentional movement in our generation that puts pressure on girls to prove their loyalty to guys that aren’t loyal to them.” Keke then went on to say, “I’m sorry but I just don’t agree that you should give someone one hundred percent of yourself when they’re not giving one hundred percent of themselves to you. You set the tone for how people treat you. I’m not saying cheat or lie, I’m saying ‘say goodbye’!” Then and there at that very moment, I knew that Keke Palmer wasn’t going to pull any punches when it came to topics discussed on her show. In under a minute, she expressed a summarized version of everything about relationships that I’d put in nearly all of my novels and articles. A relationship in any situation, whether business or intimate, should have all partners involved put in the correct amount of effort for things to be productive. That’s the problem that we see in modern day relationships, especially in my millennial generation. We’re so narcissistic now days! Everything centers around our own interests. While the concept of individualism is great in the big scheme of things, that dangerously taints your approach to intimate relationships. Guys are the biggest proponents of this as our typical “sexual gratification over everything” approach causes unwanted mental stress on the various females that we aim to get with. Lil’ Wayne, one of the artists that did a verse on the song, gave a perfect example of this mindset.

You know how the game goes

She be mine by half time, I’m the sh*t, oh

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Those two lines can cause us to go back to the generation old question of why females mess around with guys they know are no good.  I’ve found that no one really has a clear answer for this. I’ve even asked a few females that I consider friends and they all basically told me that, “Attempting to understand how women think is the hardest thing in the world.” “You haven’t lied yet!” was my response. But, after analyzing Chris Brown’s few verses in the song, I realized that he bringing a different viewpoint to the table. Keke’s right, the message and context of the song was taken completely out of proportion. Let’s not forget that the radio edits turned the song into a misogynist, female hating club song. Just like all the other songs on the radio right? However, Chris is indeed talking about a specific type of girl that is easily swayed to the brother with money even though she has a dude that’s not as monetarily flexible. His verses have an egotistical vibe but, still, it’s a narrative that deserves to get expressed.

When a rich nig*a want you (want you baby)

And your nig*a can’t do nothing for ya (no, nothing)

These h*es ain’t loyal

These h*es ain’t loyal

How far does your loyalty and commitment to your partner stretch? If you’re currently single, how far would your loyalty and commitment to your significant other stretch? While Chris didn’t specify what he means by a “broke nig*a”, he did paint the picture of a guy that actually loyal to his woman to a fault. Who, in this case, is the proverbial “h*e”.

When I call her, she gon’ leave

And I bet that bottom dollar she gon’ cheat

Come on, come on, girl

Why you frontin’?

Baby show me something

You just spent your ring on her

And it’s all for nothing

All in all, I’m a fan of Just Keke. I will be tuning in and participating in the social media discussions every chance that I get. She only has four weeks to show BET that this is a show that has longevity. Let’s reevaluate our view on relationships family! Don’t let anyone take your love for granted like the girl that Chris was talking about in the songs. That goes for the brothers and sisters out there. Don’t get it twisted!

We came, we saw, we conquered! My debut publishing effort “Riverview High: Circumstances” reached #2 on the Amazon charts! Check it out on Amazon today. Don’t forget to leave a review!

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Ray Rice Knocks Out Fiancee. Is It Ever Okay To Hit a Woman?

In today’s news, Baltimore Ravens’ player Ray Rice and his fiancee Janay Palmer were both arrested this weekend for simple assault-domestic violence in Atlantic City, New Jersey. The couple had a physical altercation, in which the report says that Palmer struck Rice, and Rice picked Palmer up by her arms out of an elevator and slammed her on the ground, knocking her out. There is video of Rice’s part of the fight, which was posted on TMZ, but his lawyer claims it does not show the whole incident.

ray rice knock outThis is reminiscent of Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson and his domestic issue with his ex-wife Evelyn Lozada in 2012. The couple got into an argument after Lazada confronted Johnson about her suspicion of him cheating. The argument escalated, and Johnson head-butted her, leaving a visible gash. They divorced shortly after this.

Ray Rice Knocks Out Fiancee. Is It Ever Okay To Hit a Woman?

And of course, the infamous story about Chris Brown and Rihanna. The couple had an extremely public domestic violence case, in which Chris Brown was charged with two felony assault counts. Their argument started when Rihanna confronted Chris about a text message from another woman. There is speculation, although not confirmed, that Rihanna may have hit Chris first. But the report is clear that Brown hit her head against the window, punched her, and tried to shove her out the car. Her injuries were made public after TMZ showed her picture following the fight.

Each one of these instances started with an argument and escalated into physical violence. The public has shared their opinions in each case, some saying that a man should never put his hands on a woman, others saying the woman may have been “asking for it”, either by getting in the man’s face with an issue, or possibly putting her hands on him first. Our question is: Is it ever okay to hit a woman? Yes, no, it depends? And if it depends, what are the limitations?

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